Jan 9 2014 by Georgina Stubbs, Skelmersdale Advertiser
A GRIEVING mother who visited her son’s resting place said she was distraught to discover his grave disturbed and that another baby had been buried in there too.
Katy Quillan, 29, from Old Skem tragically gave birth to a stillborn son, David, in April last year.
Talking to the Advertiser, Katy said that the family were told David would be the only baby laid to rest in the grave at the Duke Street cemetery in Southport and they could “put on it whatever they liked.”
In November, Katy said, they visited his grave and that the ground was flat, ‘‘without a blade of grass on it,” and she decided to think nothing of it. Then in December Katy and her family visited the grave to ‘‘do it up for Christmas.” They went to a lot of effort and added a little wooden fence, and white stones with a little father Christmas and trees.
‘‘Then we went after Christmas on Sunday to take some of the things off, there was nothing on it. All the stones and ornaments, everything had been thrown by the fence,” said Katy.
Instead the family found a teddy bear and flowers on the grave – which they think has been placed there by another grieving family whose baby has also been buried in David’s grave.
Katy said that she called the funeral directors, Hunters, in Ormskirk who said to her that a “couple of babies are put in each plot.”
Then, calling the cemetery, she was then told that up to six babies are buried in each grave. Katy said: “I just can’t believe it, finding all my things thrown off and someone else’s on there. It is not what you expect when you are told you will get your own plot for your baby.
“I don’t know who took my stuff off, but all the other graves have little fences too, those babies have their own grave. It makes me feel horrible. I just want to know why I have not been told.”
To add to her upset Katy, who is a mum to five-year-old Brooke, said that tragically she also suffered a miscarriage in November.
She added: “It would not have mattered if I had known David was going to share his grave if I had been told at the start. There was nothing on David’s grave before and now, all of a sudden, it seems there is another baby in there.
“It is not fair on the other mum too, I haven’t taken the other stuff off because I wouldn’t do that, but it is not nice to find all my stuff in a bin bag. I just want some answers because it is not fair on my daughter either, I do not know what to say to her. I don’t feel like I can take her there now.”
The Advertiser contacted Hunters Funeral Directors who declined to comment on the issue. A spokesperson for Sefton Council who operate the cemetery said: “Situations like these are always difficult because of the emotions involved but we do our very best to ensure that people are treated with the greatest of sympathy and respect.
“As with most funerals, the onus is on the funeral directors to offer bereavement guidance to families and this would include explaining how these type of graves operate. The family have contacted us and we are more than willing to discuss this further with them.”